The world markets love as a feeling that precedes or begins relationships. However the Creator says it is a spirit. He also says it comes from Him.
And hope maketh not ashamed; because the love of God/Ahayah is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Ghost/Set Apart Spirit which is given unto us. 5 and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.
romans 5 v 5
. 7For God/Elohim has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control.
2 Timothy 1 v 7
Romance novels tell us that we can fall in love. That this happens when we meet people that we are attracted to. We are usually attracted to people that meet our predetermined criteria. The thing that comes with that is actually a spirit of lust. Which we describe as the longing to use someone or something to satisfy self.
It is usually based on selfish desires and is made appealing because of the prospects of self gratification.
Whatever we value and derive our identity from becomes what attracts us to others. What we value is often derived from rejection and pain.
The love of the Almighty is different because it gives and sacrifices so the loved one can benefit. It is focused outward. It is produced through self denial and the empowerment of The Holy/Set Apart Spirit.
If I am constantly thinking about how love can benefit me then that is really self gratification/lust and not love.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
1 cor 13
We have a spirit, but we also are designed to be vessels that permit other spirits to use us. There are evil spirits and there are righteous or good spirits.
They all need our permission to use us as vessels. We give permission through covenants, either verbal or otherwise.
As the bird by wandering, as the swallow by flying, so the curse causeless shall not come.
proverbs 26 v 2
What are covenants and how do we make them
Covenants are agreements that allow 2 parties to agree on how they will relate to each other. They sometimes have conditions.
A covenant is a relationship between two partners who make binding promises to each other and work together to reach a common goal. They’re often accompanied by oaths, signs, and ceremonies. Covenants define obligations and commitments, but they are different from a contract because they are relational and personal. Think of a marriage—a husband and wife choose to enter into a formal relationship, binding themselves to one another in lifelong faithfulness and devotion. They then work as partners to reach a common goal, like building a life or raising children together.
https://bibleproject.com/blog/covenants-the-backbone-bible/
Covenants are usually accompanied by an outward sign. In the case of the noahamic covenant the rainbow was the sign and in the case of the Abrahamic covenant the circumcision was the sign.
Covenants that have conditions mean that when the condition is not met it is broken and the benefits no longer apply. However when they are met they give the spirit that we made the covenant with permission to partner with us. Also when we break a covenant it opens doors for new covenants to be made. Unfortunately humans are usually incapable of keeping covenants, which is why The Almighty designed us to get help from His spirits. Unfortunately satan gets to use this knowledge as well, and through temptation and other means gets us to covenant with him and his spirits as well.
Some ways that covenants are made with the kingdom of darkness are :-
~ Dreams of sexual intercourse
~ Dreams of eating food especially with others
~Witchcraft Altars
~ Disobeying the commandments of The Almighty
~ Having sex outside of marriage
So when we make covenants with them they help us in return to fulfill their agenda. Sometimes making a covenant with one kingdom breaks covenant with the other.
How covenants are made with The Most High
~ Through blood sacrifice specifically the Messiah’s blood.
~Water Baptism
~ Taking the Master’s supper which is the bread and the wine.
Informal covenants
Some covenants or agreements are made through actions that denote agreement. In the scriptures sometimes when covenants were being enacted the parties had a meal together.
They replied, “We can plainly see that the Lord/ The Almighty is with you. So we want to enter into a sworn treaty with you. Let’s make a covenant. 29 Swear that you will not harm us, just as we have never troubled you. We have always treated you well, and we sent you away from us in peace. And now look how the Lord/ The Almighty has blessed you!”
30 So Isaac prepared a covenant feast to celebrate the treaty, and they ate and drank together.
Some were also ratified by blood which involved sacrificing animals.
So the Lord /The Almighty said to him, “Bring me a heifer, a goat and a ram, each three years old, along with a dove and a young pigeon.”
10 Abram brought all these to him, cut them in two and arranged the halves opposite each other; the birds, however, he did not cut in half. 11 Then birds of prey came down on the carcasses, but Abram drove them away…When the sun had set and darkness had fallen, a smoking firepot with a blazing torch appeared and passed between the pieces. 18 On that day the Lord/The Almighty made a covenant with Abram and said, “To your descendants I give this land, from the Wadi[e] of Egypt to the great river, the Euphrates— 19 the land of the Kenites, Kenizzites, Kadmonites, 20 Hittites, Perizzites, Rephaites, 21 Amorites, Canaanites, Girgashites and Jebusites.”
Sex was also used to ratify marriage covenants.
This means that these actions can and are usually interpreted by the spirit world as covenant making or covenant renewal actions.
So sex outside of a formal covenant still sends a message to the spirit world that a covenant is being made. However since The Most High stipulates that this should be only done between people who are in a marriage covenant. Then demons usually see this as an invitation to assist. So they will make it more difficult for us to stop, using a spirit of lust to provide assistance. If we practice sex in marriage then the Holy Spirit helps us with self control as long as we are committed to obeying His commandments. .
Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
1 cor 7 v 5
Hebrews 13 v 4
Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled; but whoremongers and adulterers God/ Elohim will judge.
Sex creates soul ties through which spirits are introduced and transferred to partners. Soul ties make us one with another and the spirits view both people as one. This is why the bible speaks against being unequally yoked.
The body, however, is not meant for sexual immorality but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. 14 By his power God/ Ahayah raised the Lord/Messiah from the dead, and he will raise us also. 15 Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! 16 Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.”[b]17 But whoever is united with the Lord/ Messiah is one with him in spirit.[c]
1 cor 6
Our actions either invite the spirit of love or lust
So the spirit of love empowers us when we seek to love The Almighty with all our hearts and our neighbor as self as the word commands. When we seek to obey the commandments in our minds and hearts that is how we love Him and others.
On the reverse we invite the spirit of lust when we violate the commandments by desiring sex outside of marriage.
You have heard that it was said, ‘Do not commit adultery.’ 28But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman to lust after her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
mathew 5 v 28
“After desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.”
James 1 v 15
Sexual activity outside of a marriage covenant is usually selfish although it can be that way in marriage as well. So being married does not ensure that the spirit of love will be in operation in marriage. Many marriages were initiated by the spirit of sexual lust , which usually wears out after a while and is not enough to sustain a healthy relationship.
Such marriages often fail if the parties do not get delivered from the spirit of lust.
We are body soul and spirit beings and all parts needs love. Sexual lust is usually all about satisfying physical desires and feelings. This is only satisfactory to the body. The soul which is where the emotions, mind and will are located need intimacy and real love. Which comes through knowing the person and having their attention, interest, quality time and affection. However most people are broken through some form of rejection and cannot supply this need on their own.
The spirit of love comes through covenant
We were created to have an intimate relationship with our Creator through His Spirit and receive His spirit of love which satisfies the soul. This requires a covenant with Him, which is made through the son Yahsya Hamashyach . This is made through our spirits joining with with His and water baptism is a sign of this covenant.
This is how we receive the spirit of love which comes with self control and other spirits that helps us to be able to love The Almighty and other people.
His divine power has given us everything we need for a godly/righteous life through our knowledge of him who called us by his own glory/esteem and goodness. 4 Through these he has given us his very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate in the set apart nature, having escaped the corruption in the world caused by evil desires/ lust.
5 For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; 6 and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; 7 and to godliness, mutual affection; and to mutual affection, love. 8 For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ/ Yahshya Hamshyach.
2 peter 1