For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
ephesians 6 v 12
We were created to be loved and to need it for our well being. Love in its simplest form is acceptance, approval and belonging. The purest form of it comes from The Almighty.
And a voice from heaven said, “This is my Son, whom I love; with him I am well pleased.”
mathew 3 v 17
The father accept us in whatever state we are when we come to Him and he correct us and show us and help us to change for the better and owns us as His.
“For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth. 7 If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not? 8 But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons.”
Hebrews 12 v 6-12
Only The Father has the ability to love like this and those that are born of the Spirit. The carnal man cannot love like this. Human love is based on self gratification and will reject and abandon others when self does not perceive a personal benefit. It will betray and desert you without concern for your trauma.
Put not your trust in princes, nor in the son of man, in whom there is no help.
4 His breath goeth forth, he returneth to his earth; in that very day his thoughts perish.
5 Happy is he that hath the God of Jacob for his help, whose hope is in the Lord his God:
Psalm 146 v 3-5
We get hurt when we put our trust in unregenerated man because they do not have The father’s love.
We were created to be loved by The Father and our parents were supposed to the carriers of that love. However when this is not the case we are often rejected, abused and abandoned even from childhood.
The effects of this trauma can affect us throughout our lives and even make it difficult for us to receive The father’s love.
Rejection, disapproval and abandonment are very painful and create wounds. When it is experienced for a long time it becomes traumatic.
Trauma are portals for demonic entry
Emotional wounds are often not attended to and can become infected and make us become carriers of the spirit of rejection. When we are traumatized and wounded we often blame someone. In some cases it is our abuser, our caregiver and even The Almighty. This means we are leaning to our understanding being our own judge which gives the enemy the rights. Because unknowingly this information is usually coming from him.
We are vessels that were made to agree with spirits and give them authority to operate in the Earth. In the beginning Adam listened to and obeyed The Almighty and gave him The Authority to direct his life and operate through Him. When Satan deceived Chava/Eve and got her to listen to him and obey him, then he became the god/mighty one of the Earth and they were put out of the presence of The Almighty.
But in a great house there are not only vessels of gold and of silver, but also of wood and of earth; and some to honour, and some to dishonour. If a man therefore purge himself from these, he shall be a vessel unto honour, sanctified, and meet for the master’s use, and prepared unto every good work.
2 Timothy 2 v 22
The voice we listen to matters
The Spirit world on both sides have many spirits and they have voices. When Eve listened to the enemy she was rejecting the voice of The Almighty. Once she rejected the Almighty mankind through Adam did the same. By choosing to obey The Devil she chose to embrace the laws of sin and death which operates through rejection. Rejection of The Almighty will always lead to rejection of people.
People are supposed to be carriers of love but instead we often carry rejection. Because true love can only come from The Father who is always faithful and has promised never to leave us our forsake us. We leave him but He never leaves us.
Children who have no other point of reference are often damaged by wounded parents.
When Samuel went to Jesse to find which of his sons was chosen by The Most high, to be the next King he overlooked David because he thought he was not qualified. no wonder David wrote that :
When my father and my mother forsake me, Then the LORD will take care of me.
psalm 27 v 10
At some point we must rest in the knowledge that The Most high will never leave or forsake us.
Be strong and of a good courage, fear not, nor be afraid of them: for the LORD/Elohim thy God/Almighty, he it is that doth go with thee; he will not fail thee, nor forsake thee.
Deuteronomy 31 v 6
We were created to be loved and that means we need to be accepted, approved of and owned. This is why rejection damages us so badly because it is the opposite of acceptance. Abandonment is the opposite of ownership and disapproval without justifiable cause is the opposite of approval. They are all very difficult for humans to handle and recover from.
We always have a choice
Wisdom calls aloud outside; She raises her voice in the open squares. She cries out in the chief concourses, At the openings of the gates in the city She speaks her words: “How long, you simple ones, will you love simplicity? For scorners delight in their scorning, And fools hate knowledge.
Proverbs 1 v 20
I in turn will laugh when disaster strikes you;
I will mock when calamity overtakes you—
27 when calamity overtakes you like a storm,
when disaster sweeps over you like a whirlwind,
when distress and trouble overwhelm you.28 “Then they will call to me but I will not answer;
Proverbs 1 v 26 – 33
they will look for me but will not find me,
29 since they hated knowledge
and did not choose to fear the Lord.
30 Since they would not accept my advice
and spurned my rebuke,
31 they will eat the fruit of their ways
and be filled with the fruit of their schemes.
32 For the waywardness of the simple will kill them,
and the complacency of fools will destroy them;
33 but whoever listens to me will live in safety
and be at ease, without fear of harm.”
Folly is an unruly woman;
Proverbs 9 v 13-18
she is simple and knows nothing.
14 She sits at the door of her house,
on a seat at the highest point of the city,
15 calling out to those who pass by,
who go straight on their way,
16 “Let all who are simple come to my house!”
To those who have no sense she says,
17 “Stolen water is sweet;
food eaten in secret is delicious!”
18 But little do they know that the dead are there,
that her guests are deep in the realm of the dead.
Say to wisdom, “You are my sister,”
and to insight, “You are my relative.”
5 They will keep you from the adulterous woman,
from the wayward woman with her seductive words.Then out came a woman to meet him,
dressed like a prostitute and with crafty intent.
11 (She is unruly and defiant,
her feet never stay at home;
12 now in the street, now in the squares,
at every corner she lurks.)
13 She took hold of him and kissed him
and with a brazen face she said:14 “Today I fulfilled my vows,
Proverbs 7
and I have food from my fellowship offering at home.
15 So I came out to meet you;
I looked for you and have found you!
Why does rejection matter to us so much
We were created to need real love, which can be defined as true acceptance, real approval and secure belonging. The opposite of acceptance is rejection . Rejection can be real or imagined either way it has the same effect. The more unrighteous our homes the more likely we are to struggle with rejection and even abandonment issues.
The first place acceptance should come from is our parents. In the first few years of life our parents should be mirroring to us by the expression on their faces and the words they use how much we mean to them.
But since most parents are not taught the importance of these things they fail miserably. Then on top of that if there is dysfunction/sin in the home that makes it worst. Parents are often themselves suffering from the effects of rejection which makes us self absorbed and not able to be emotionally available to our children.
The effects of rejection
One of the effects of rejection is that it causes an obsession with the rejector. This is idolatry and serves the enemies purpose. It develops a hunger and thirst for acceptance from any source and lowers self esteem and causes a fear of rejection. It also creates soul ties to the rejector and a strong desire for their acceptance. In some cases it leads to unforgiveness towards whomever we blame. This opens the door for demons and the spirit of death.
“Then the master called the servant in. ‘You wicked servant,’ he said, ‘I canceled all that debt of yours because you begged me to. 33 Shouldn’t you have had mercy on your fellow servant just as I had on you?’ 34 In anger his master handed him over to the jailers to be tortured, until he should pay back all he owed.
35 “This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart.”
Mathew 18
Rejection will always be passed down from generation to generation once there is no righteous sorrow repentance and deliverance. The Messiah came to redeem mankind from its hopeless, helpless condition of senseless stupidity. He set an example for us of listening to His father always and obeying Him and then he the righteous died on behalf the unrighteous so that we could repent and have the remission of sins. Not just ours but that of our ancestors.
Wisdom is available and we can choose between life and death. His commandments can now be written in our hearts so that we can desire to obey Him from the heart because our conscience can be washed cleaned by the blood of Messiah.
1 Timothy 4 v 2
speaking lies in hypocrisy, having their conscience seared with a hot iron,
“To the pure all things are pure, but to those who are defiled and unbelieving nothing is pure; but even their mind and conscience are defiled.”
titus 1 v 15
“let us draw near with a true heart in full assurance of faith, having our hearts sprinkled from an evil conscience and our bodies washed with pure water.”
How do we overcome the spirit of rejection?
We do have a Creator that genuinely cares about us and wants us to be loved by others as He loves us. He has given us his word and sent His son to show us His love . So it is possible for us to overcome the spirit of rejection and experience the true love of our Creator as well as others.
The first place to begin would be to receive our heavenly Father’s love. He loves us by accepting us in our present condition and then helping us to change without condemning us. He gives us boundaries and that help us to change through consequences.
Like a fluttering sparrow or a darting swallow,
Proverbs 26 v 2-3
an undeserved curse does not come to rest.
3 A whip for the horse, a bridle for the donkey,
and a rod for the backs of fools!
So although rejection comes by way of us listening to and obeying the devil, the curses that come as a result are meant to turn us to the Father.
As we learn to love Him by respecting His boundaries, we grow in love for ourselves and our neighbor. We accept ourselves in our condition and set boundaries for ourselves to help us to change example if we struggle with food addiction we can fast to gain mastery over food with The help of The Most High.
Whatever our vices are with His help we can have the victory over sin. And with this victory comes more of The Fathers love and as we love we learn to love ourselves and our neighbor. When we are delivered we can have compassion for others that need deliverance and accept them as they are and help them to change by setting boundaries too.
He cleanses our conscience, grants us righteous sorrow and deliver us so that we can hear his voice and follow Him. We no longer rely on human love but only on Him. He will love us and connect us with those who love Him. This way we will not be rejected and abandoned but loved and accepted.