Have you ever met someone and felt like you have known them all your life. You can relax and be yourself and not pretend to be who you are not. You know at a gut level that the connection is mutual. It is not sexual, it is organic and authentic. This is sometimes how the best friendships begin.
In the Eco system connections are made between organisms that often benefit the entire Eco system on a seemingly random basis. Healthy relationships also do that, because they nourish our mental and emotional well being . A healthy marriage impacts children and helps them to feel secure. In the scientific world opposites attract, and some have tried to apply that principle to husband and wife relationships. However unfortunately when we are too different in our core values and perspectives, then the lack of compatibility can be very toxic. A certain amount of difference is beneficial as it allows for a complimentary relationship where the stronger helps the weaker. However too much difference often leads to excessive conflict followed by emotional and even physical divorce.
Why Physical attraction is not enough
Some dating sites offer questionnaires that try to identify what is important to each person and then match them accordingly. Today computers can use algorithms to determine what ads to place in our social media . Despite this we continue to make dating choices based on physical attraction, which has nothing to do with core values. Studies are showing that most relationships end in divorce because of incompatibility. According to a recent survey of 191 CDFA professionals from across North America, the three leading causes of divorce are “basic incompatibility” (43%), “infidelity” (28%), and “money issues” (22%).
Why Divine connections work
The Creator is the master of the Universe. He designed the Earth to sustain life by deriving energy from the sun and the Eco system to connect and serve each other. We use oxygen that trees produce, worms help to replace nutrients in the soil that is needed by plants. If He could so intelligently determine how everything should connect in order to work together in the Earth, then He is more than capable of helping us to connect. My experience has proven that. Elohim/The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” We were made to connect in order to thrive and when we let Him do it, he exceeds our expectations.
“I knew you before I formed you in your mother’s womb. Before you were born I set you apart and appointed you as my prophet to the nations.
Jeremiah 1 v 5
We are so unique that even our finger prints are different. So the best person to determine who we should connect to for the maximum optimization of the relationship is The Creator.
I had made bad relationship decisions before, until I gave up doing it myself and asked for His help. When we do not use our intuition or seek prophetic or parental incite, but base our decisions regarding relationships on lust, the result is often tragic. The problem with using physical appearance as our main criteria is that compatibility has very little to do with appearance.
Compatibility matters
The nature of marriage requires that we should be compatible, as we have to spend a lot of time together . When we have similar goals, passions, cultural heritage, religious beliefs and fiscal habits, we increase the odds that our relationship will stand the test of time. When The Most High connects us , most of these things are usually taken into consideration. That is why there is the feeling that you have known the person for a long time. We have to want His help however, and that means we have to let go of our worldly way of thinking.
The bible calls the way most people think the love of the world, the lust of the eye, the lust of the flesh and the pride of life. The reason we want what is pleasing to the eye(lust of the eye) is because we are overly concerned with impressing others. Imagine we are willing to choose a life partner because they look good on our arm whether they have similar values or not. ” Be not unequally yoked with unbelievers “says The Most High. We also want to be sexually appeased(lust of the flesh) and so the person’s sex appeal can be a major factor in our choice, regardless of their character. These superficial motives are behind most choices and this is why the divorce rate is what it is. Marriage is too important a decision to make with out divine guidance. Let Him supply all your needs.
“Trust inYah /the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. [6] In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths. “Proverbs 3 v5-6.